What a day in bed will remind you...

I blew it.

I know I’ve sent a few “oops” emails lately, but this time it’s different. I didn’t blow it for you guys. I blew it for me.

As you all know, I have a massively optimistic publishing schedule this year, with sixteen planned releases. Some of them are novellas, but it’s still a really big goal!

And on top of that, I’ve vowed to give back to you guys for all your support, by writing emails that give you value.

I love writing these emails. I love writing the books! I love publishing the books, interacting with readers, and doing every bit of this awesome job I love so much.

But in committing to such an ambitious plan and holding myself to such high standards, I blew it. How? Because I burned myself out two days after release #2!

Yes, that’s right. Last Thursday I spent almost the entire day in bed, sick. I had all these great ideas of emails I was going to send last week to celebrate The Demon You Trust, the launch of the Super Secret Bonus scenes, the awesomeness of readers, of you, of me, and spring and who knows what else.

Instead, I put on my pjs and fuzzy socks, and I crawled into bed. Don’t get me wrong. Spending the day in bed snuggled next to my pooches can be a great, leisurely way to spend time…but not when you’re sick!

As I slept the day away, it got me thinking, and it made me realize that I’d been pushing myself at a crazy level, grabbing every single moment I could, even at the expense of things in my life that are important to me, sacrificing time with my family, exercising my dogs, eating well, reading, relaxing, and sleeping.

Anyone can operate at that level for a short time, but in the long run, it doesn’t lead anywhere good.

So, instead of giving a behind the scenes about my book that’s coming out next week, today I just wanted to reach out and give and every one of you a hug, because I bet most of you are making the same choices I was making, to push so hard that you forget to make times for the things that really matter to you, like your family, your health, or simply taking a moment to relax.

We are programmed to fill every second our day with activities and actions that are worthwhile, that produce results, that lead us to accomplish the next thing on our list. I think we’re all pretty darn good at that.

So, let’s get good at doing the opposite. Of realizing that taking a step back, of taking a breath, of sitting down on the couch to chat with someone you love, or to breathe deeply and appreciate the moment, are all equally as important.

You can’t run a marathon every day, right? You gotta take time off to replenish your body, right? Life is the same. We need to refuel, recuperate, and settle back into a few moments of relaxation, and then we can attack our lives with so much more gusto.

I forgot that, but a day in bed helped me remember.

Don’t worry! I’m not going into retirement, but I’m going to look at my publishing schedule and adjust it a bit. Maybe not send quite so many emails during a release week. Try to find a balance that gives me the fuel to keep delivering the stories you love all year long, instead of just for a few days until my head explodes.

You guys rock. I love you! I love having the opportunity to write for you. Together, we can navigate this amazing gift called life, and live it the best we can, learning and adjusting as we go.

Hugs to all!


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